Missing Husband: David and Jason Spend Their Sixth Anniversary Apart, Separated by 6,000 Miles and DOMA

On May 12, 2007, I sat in a restaurant in West Hollywood swearing off men forever after a string of bad relationships. That was until my future husband walked in.

My friend James noticed my distraction, took the lonely stranger’s plate and sat him at our table, directly opposite me. For 2 hours we ate, drank and laughed. In one meal, I had gone from having lost all interest in dating to hitting it off with a guy who I may as well have designed myself.

Jason was visiting Los Angeles at the end of a 6-week trip across North America. I spent 3 days showing him the city, before he was due to flew out to New Zealand to continue his travels. Our whirlwind few days were up and it was time for our first airport goodbye. We both felt a weird difficulty that you just don’t get after hanging out with a stranger for 3 days. We knew it was something special.

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Jason and David

For the rest of Jason’s travels, for the rest of that year, and for the 6 years since, we have spoken every day. As I arrive at my office in LA Jason gets home from work in the UK. We get online and chat right through the day until he has to go to sleep. Sadly, this long distance communication is avoidable and our separation is down to the divisive and immoral Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA).

President Bill Clinton signed DOMA into law in September 1996. It denies millions of Americans over 1,100 rights, and has kept us and thousands of other same-sex, bi-national couples separated on birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, and countless other occasions that we should be sharing together. And that’s all we’re asking for – to be together.

DOMA means that legal gay marriages are not recognized federally and are not enough to bring foreign spouses of gay Americans to the US. Jason isn’t welcome to the US as a Husband and has only ever been able to visit for a maximum 90 days as a tourist.

Jason has been warned for 2 years that he has visited the US too often using tourist visa waivers. It’s currently recommended that he wait 6 months before returning, or he may be denied entry as a visitor.


What most people don’t realize is that when Jason has landed, whether or not he is allowed out of LAX airport is at the discretion of the Customs and Border Protection officer. The past 2 years he has been taken aside to a small interview room, interrogated and had his luggage searched by officers suspecting he is lying about his reasons for visiting. They scoff at any explanation of the years of difficulties he’s had obtaining a visa, replying “it’s not that hard”.

This is why the days leading up to his return are always filled with dread. In the run up to his visit, friends and family say, “…you must be so excited! I bet you can’t wait to see him!” which is true. But behind those conversations, all I can think about is the terrifying hour (or 2, or 3) after his plane lands and whether or not he’ll make it past customs and out of the airport.


Thankfully, DOMA and all of this stress could be history by the end of June. The Supreme Court heard arguments against the law on March 27. Our fate is now in the hands of 9 Justices who will decide whether or not to strike down DOMA. We should know on or around June 27. If the court does not strike it down then we have little hope of being able to start a life together in the United States and may be forced to join the many Americans living in exile with their partners across the world.

In a country that has proclaimed since 1776 that ‘all men are created equal’ I feel rejected. I have been put through so much pain, for so long, and I don’t know how many more goodbyes I have in me.

Goodbyes at LAX airport are always the worst, but the silent drive home is a close second. An overwhelming, and avoidable sadness sets in, and knowing it’s not going to go away for months fills my head with bitterness and anger. Fighting these emotions is a constant battle when Jason’s not here. Imagine sharing the most incredible 3 months with your perfect companion, filling every spare hour with fun, only for that person to be ripped from your arms and flown over 5000 miles away from you for an indefinite amount of time.

It was a cruel coincidence that in March, what could be Jason’s last 90-day tourist visa waiver expired on the day the Supreme Court heard arguments against the Defense of Marriage Act. If goodbyes weren’t difficult enough, we had a constant news flow the whole day, reminding us of the pain we were about to endure. And are enduring today.

Before we were married this past September, neither Jason nor I thought we could get any closer. But as I sit here alone writing this, and as Jason sends me the latest version of our ‘goodbye’ video, I realize it put a fight in us. A fight fuelled by having a rooftop wedding in New York that did nothing to help our situation. It’s through the difficult times that we like to remind ourselves that despite it’s cruel intentions, DOMA has only made us even closer.


In the next few days we will find out if Jason’s 3-year H-1B work visa has been approved or denied. We’ve now been separated, waiting for this outcome for over a month. Even if it were approved the visa term wouldn’t begin until October, meaning that whether as a spouse, a tourist or with a work visa, Jason is unable to enter the US for 6 months and with a full time job I can only visit him for a 2 week vacation. We were in the exact same position last year and we just can’t go through that again, and we won’t. It’s not getting easier. Only harder. But no country, no law will stop the two of us from loving each other. And that’s what carries us through.

When we met in that restaurant in 2007 we had no idea that we would spend the rest of our lives together, and apart. We had no idea that there would ever be an issue with Jason moving here and us being together. How naïve were we to believe that two people could fall in love and live their life in peace? When Jason began making plans to move here, it became clear that it was not our decision. And that simply isn’t fair.

It’s time to defeat DOMA.

UPDATE: David and Jason learned days before their 6th year anniversary that Jason’s H-1B work visa petition had been rejected. David and Jason once again spent their anniversary apart, with no way of knowing when they will see each other again.
It’s time to repeal DOMA.

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  • Jeffery Vennard

    This story is almost identical even down to the date that my spouse and I met on May 11, 2007. David and Jason met on May 12th of the same year. The difference is that my spouse and I were able to spend over 5 years living together and we were married legally here in Iowa. But last November, Immigration detained him, and he was deported back to Mexico about 10 days ago after spending 165 days in jail. I feel broken, as does my spouse. We can communicate every other day, but it is difficult. You can’t imagine what this is like unless you have been there. My heart goes out to David and Jason and others that are in this same boat…pray for DOMA to get overturned….thanks…

    May 13, 2013
  • Brian

    I emphasize with you, and I’m lucky my partner and I are both American. At the same time, why not move to the UK? It’s a wonderful country, and I’d move there if I could.

    May 13, 2013
    • Jason

      Thank you for your interest Brian. It is an option and we would like to live in London one day but we shouldn’t have to. We’d struggle to live in London happily knowing it was forced upon us by a cruel portion of Americans. To leave LA/California and all the reasons it’s so special to us behind would be a sad moment in our fight for equality.

      May 16, 2013
    • Brian

      Thanks for your response, Jason. Don’t get me wrong: it is BRUTALLY unfair what you’re going through, the awful realities of DOMA. I hate DOMA, and the more I read the stories on this website, the more upset I get. My only point is that, as viciously unfair as DOMA is, the fact that it is right now a reality means that your choices are limited. With how much you love each other, you could be together in the UK until the US wises up. I understand this is an incredibly personal decision and I’m sure you’ve thought through every angle. I just hate to see you apart from each other when you could be together. It’s horrible that you have only one choice of country right now. Ugh. What a nightmare this stupid law creates for binational gay couples!

      May 21, 2013


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  • Jo Beale

    Absolutely disgusting! These guys and so many same sex couples like them have been together for longer than most opposite sex couples we know. It beggars belief! All these couples deserve to be happy. Time to say goodbye to DOMA! It has no place in this day and age! :(

    May 13, 2013
  • TheBrutalKremlin

    In the same boat, but in the UK. Want to come back ot US with my partner. If you are so depserate to be together, why don’t you immigrate to the UK? You can do it legally…

    May 13, 2013
  • Johnny

    Very similar to my own story — I met my partner in London in September 2007 — he’s from Spain. He was a student, with lots of available time to travel and visit me in the U.S., and I own my own business so I was able to visit him in Spain frequently — however in the past 2 years he has been in the U.S. only a total of 3-1/2 weeks. He has been interrogated in a hostile and humiliating manner and threatened with deportation. I know the fear of waiting outside the terminal simply wondering if he will get in — it can be hours and you have no contact, no idea whats going on. We dare not even get married as our lawyers advise he would never be allowed back into the U.S. Even though every stay has complied with the requirements of his tourist visa, he was point black told in March that he would not be allowed back in next time unless he got a 6 mos. travel visa — something he’s not able to do because currently he’s unemployed having been laid off from his job last October given the continuing economic crisis in Spain. We’ve no idea what to do next and pray for a decision in June that would it possible for him to move to the U.S. as my spouse. I am simply horrified at how I’ve been treated unequally as a citizen. The idea of equality under the law in this country is a cruel and heartless joke.

    May 13, 2013
  • unclemike

    I was born in California. My husband was born in Hong Kong. We met in 2002, while we were both working in northern California. After 2 years of living together, he had to go back to HK in 2006, due to visa issues (he was laid off). We have had a long-distance relationship since then. Last November, we both flew to Vancouver and got legally married. 3 days later we had to fly back to our respective countries, and, even though we chat every day/night, we actually have no idea when we will be able to see each other again, much less when we might be able to live together again. DOMA is un-American, and I am ashamed of my country that it ever became law.

    May 13, 2013
  • Mark McGovern

    My US husband and I (a Canadian) move back and forth between borders where we both face regular stresses at the US border. Have to say that the US customs have, for the most part, been very good to us. Arriving by air is another matter.

    May 13, 2013
  • This is such a sad story to me. Not only is a couple being kept apart, but the U.S. is out a valuable citizen. Do we not want presumably educated, hardworking people who are already in stable relationships with “one of our own”? To me, these are the kinds of people I want to welcome with open arms. But the whole system is a joke, and even when we overturn DOMA and “reform” immigration, it’ll be far from what it needs to be.

    I’m a straightish woman. When I married an Australian man, our marriage visa process was a breeze, at least as far as immigration processes go–albeit expensive as usual. During the paperwork and interviews, I felt thankful and frustrated all at once. We were clearly given a pass because we were white and straight. That’s not to say we haven’t had our own frustrations (later on, we’ve found some minor bias against couples without children), but they’ve been nothing in comparison to being refused entry or left hanging for years on end.

    My heart goes out to you two. I hope DOMA gets overturned and you find a way to be together in the U.S. at last. But if the troglodytes we have for justices don’t overturn DOMA…move somewhere better if you can. Sometimes, though it may feel we’re letting the system “win,” it’s better to realize life is just too short sometimes to keep fighting the good fight, at least so personally.

    May 13, 2013
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  • Valerie Morel

    It is unethical, immoral, and criminal in my mind, that a few individuals, based on their own personal feelings, can determine the lives of so many.

    May 14, 2013
  • Frank Bogus

    For sake of LOVE, we need to overturn DOMA and allow gay marriage in every state. My partner and I met in May 2003. We were both in the Navy and unfortunately I was assigned to a ship in Norfolk VA. Each time I would have to go out to sea for a prolonged period of time or even on deployments, we would have to say our good byes, hugs, kisses in private while my fellow shipmates were allowed to see their loved ones off on the pier. So I somewhat feel your pain. This video hit me hard. Its not about same sex marriage, its about being able to love someone you really care about and having them by your side til the end. If either of these men were women, then it not be an issue. Its rediculous. You guys are an inspiration. Keep fighting.

    May 15, 2013
  • Peter

    My husband is from France. I’m from the US. We’ve been together for 15 years. Until this year, the absence of gay marriage in France meant I couldn’t immigrate there. Obviously the US was not an option either. Luckily, my father was born in Canada, so we moved here. We arrived in a new city with no jobs, no friends, no family, and almost no money. We were together, though. It was the best decision we’ve ever made.

    Unfortunately, among gay binational couples, the couple in this article is lucky. One man in the couple is from a country that allows gays and lesbians to sponsor their partners for immigration. Of course, like straight binational couples, they should be able to decide to make the US their home.

    Best to them. Hopefully DOMA will fall in June.

    May 16, 2013
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  • CJ

    My heart breaks for you. I sincerely hope you can reach a solution. I find it exceedingly unfair and disgusting that I, as a straight chick, have any more rights than any other person at all for any reason. It’s so sad. Much love to you both. Sending hugs and good thoughts your way. <3

    May 17, 2013
  • Linda Constantineau

    I am so saddened that you are being kept apart. This is so ridiculous and unfair. I wish I could help. This is frustrating, and I can only imagine what it would be like to be kept apart from the man I love. I wish you both the best, and a good future.

    May 17, 2013
  • Charles

    I wish you guys good luck. My partner and I have been together for 11 years. Manuel was detained 1 1/2 years ago and we fought the system like dogs. With a great lawyer, and the fact that he didn’t have a criminal record, he was not deported back to Guatemala. We were so happy. We are really hoping to strike down DOMA as it would help our family so much. Manuel feels so lost with no rights but we are thankful to at least be together. I cannot imagine how tough it must be for you guys. My heart goes out to you both.

    May 17, 2013
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  • Andrea Carbon

    I am an American that chose to exile myself to live with my British partner in the UK. We are unable to visit the US togther as my partner was once refused entry and we have been frightened to try again. This means that unless I go home alone visits back to the US are few and far between. I feel bad leaving my partner even though its just to visit my family and friends. We had a Civil Partnership in the UK in 2007 and although my partner has visited the US with me we have not been back since we got married, as it wasn’t u til we had our CP that my partner was refused entry. US immigration authorities suspected that my partner would try and ‘go illegal’ and promptly sent her back home to the UK on next available flight after being detained for several hours. Thankfully the UK does afford me the option of being living with my partner but I gave up an aweful lot to do so. I gave up a career at the University of Minnesota and my job related masters degree. The worst has been to go years without seeing my family and friends. Neither of us have good jobs now and we simply can’t afford to travel that often.The situation is better than nothing and I’m glad we have the option of being together in the UK but I’d love to go home. It would be nice to even just visit without fear of my partner being detained. I hope you guys are able to find a solution to your current situation and I too join you in hoping DOMA gets repealed.

    May 19, 2013
  • Jason

    You story and ours so similar, for 8 years we have been waiting, hopeful that by July DOMA will be repealed and we all will be able to be apply for a Fiancee Visa. Good luck to you guys. We will all have to celebrate and rejoice in our victory. Thanks to DOMA.org for all you are doing as well. Jason & Oscar

    May 19, 2013
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  • Clare

    What a beautiful yet sad story! I find it disgusting that we don’t have equal rights for everyone. We don’t recognise gay marriage in Australia either. When will the politicians listen, if two people love each other they have a right to celebrate their love and for it to be recognised. Stay strong, you sound like a lovely couple!

    May 21, 2013
  • Peter H

    Jason and David, this is an unfortunate story at the moment, and I am sorry that half our country is filled with people with 18th century notions fairness and acceptable love. Fortunately, the tide is turning and they will be on the wrong side of history, as usual, sooner rather than later. I am hopeful that the right-wing of the Supreme Court’s notions of Libertarianism and states rights will sway at least one or two of them to the right side, and strike down DOMA.

    Even if this is unfortunately not the case, people my age (30) and younger are overwhelmingly in favor of equal rights in general for homosexuals, and I have little doubt that the crusading “Christian” Right’s movement to make homosexuals second-class citizens will soon just be another shameful part of our nation’s past, looked upon with the same disgust that we currently view the racially discriminatory laws of times past. Best of luck to you both, and to anyone similarly affected by these disgusting, discriminatory laws. With a little patience, it will just be a bad memory for all of us.

    May 22, 2013
  • How sad when love is criminalized and to ‘protect’ something they marganilize those doing such a sweet job of representing it. Good luck to you both.

    May 23, 2013
  • Rickiann

    Reading this brought me to tears . I can’t imagine living with out my spouse . To be honest I had no clue about this law. You would think that our country would move forward and no longer have such crazy insane laws.
    My prayers are with you that this law is removed from the books . You two and so many others deserve the same rights as everyone else .
    (Side note) you two are such a cute couple <3

    May 23, 2013
  • Matt Stanford

    Y’know…I’m a straight male, and as such I could never fully grasp the BS same-sex couples have to wade through on the daily. I’m completely empathetic, and firmly believe that love is love, no matter what form it takes. The two of you fell madly in love in three days? I’m really happy for you. I wish you even more years, just as soon as this country stops oppressing every single person that ISN’T a straight white male.
    I do find it sickening that these douchebags say “you’ve been visiting the country *too much,*” as if it really freaking matters. It’s not their job to question why someone is there, unless they’re a legitimate risk. A man flying to see the love of his life shouldn’t be questioned. Especially when it’s longer and truer than any straight relationship.
    I do agree that DOMA needs to end. The United States needs to stop with the homophobic behavior. People are people, regardless what their race, religion, or sexual inclinations. David, Jason, and anybody else that is forced to live like this because of DOMA, or just the usual homophobic oppression of your area, know that I’ll be rooting for you. This crap needs to end…

    May 23, 2013
  • Roger J Diamond

    I laughed when the DOMA was signed, seeing that the majority of those behind the law were, oh, DIVORCED! Same sex couples were never a threat to heterosexual marriage, divorce is. Seriously, the Christian Right has corrupted Congress and the mindset of too many influential people.

    After 27+ years of marriage I know that my marriage to my wife is strong. I couldn’t imagine being apart from her for more than a week, let alone a year!

    Stay strong, the stupidity of this “law” will end, sooner than later.

    May 23, 2013
  • This is exactly the reason that I refuse to get married. I CAN. I am a basically straight woman who’s been in a long term relationship for years. I’m a freakin ordained minister who almost exclusively performs gay weddings, and I do it for free, every single time. But I’m not going to get married myself until this kind of horrible injustice is over. I couldn’t be happy knowing that I have some sort of privilege that other people don’t. I’ll wait it out.

    May 23, 2013
  • ECedric

    It is a national shame and travesty that this BS is allowed. Equality for all. No exceptions.

    Stay strong to all separated and apart.

    May 23, 2013
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    May 23, 2013
  • Elizabeth Bent

    I’m so sad to read this. I’ve had to travel and live in different countries, and was able to drag my heterosexual husband with me and get him work visas and residency papers and all that sort of thing with a minimum of fuss. It’s appalling to me that committed same-sex couples would be denied this basic freedom, for no logical reason. It’s cruel. My heart goes out to both of you, and I wish there were something I could do (I’m Canadian, so I can’t even vote in the US) to help. I do know Canada allows same-sex marriage (federally, so it’s across the country) and there is an interim program to allow same-sex couples to immigrate. I know you’d like to stay in California, which I agree is lovely (and it has much better weather than anywhere in Canada), but if there are other couples out there that are open to the idea of living in Canada, here is a website with some information: http://www.legit.ca/ Again, good luck to you both, you seem like lovely people and I wish I could do something to help.

    May 23, 2013
  • Kyle

    I’m probably missing some legalese with this story.
    I get the limits with the traveling visa but why doesn’t either Jason move to the U.S. and (I presume he’d have to) become a citizen or David move to the U.K. and become a citizen?
    Obviously it would be better to move to the U.K. since they actually recognize their marriage.

    I get that David would have to leave his job, family & friends and “live in exile” as it was put but if they want to be together and have a life together, isn’t that worth it? and it’s not as though he’d never be allowed to visit his family back in the states.

    Yes, I of course agree DOMA is horrible and I hope it is struck down in June but taking the emotion out of the story, the solution isn’t that implausible.

    May 24, 2013
    • The DOMA Project

      The law of the U.S. does not permit the British spouse to move here; in fact, even visiting is very difficult, as visits must be rare. It is not possible for the American spouse to move to the U.K. for reasons that are specific to their situation, even though British law does provide an avenue for immigration for same-sex binational couples. (Gay and lesbian couples do have greater rights in the U.K. than they do in the U.S., although the U.K. does not permit same-sex couples to marry.)

      Like their opposite-sex counterparts, their future as a married couple can only be secure if they have equality under the law, including the equal right to choose where to live and build a life together. After six years together, they should not be forced to say goodbye at airports, and that is what DOMA is doing to them. Often it appears on the surface that a couple torn apart by DOMA simply has to make a choice to live outside the U.S., but no couple’s specific circumstances can ever be fully shared or scrutinized. In this case, there is no choice available to them. If there was a way for them to be together, they would not, after six years, be going through this torment, expense and struggle.

      We appreciate all comments and encourage feedback. Please feel free to contact us at [email protected] if you have any questions.

      May 26, 2013
  • Bobs

    Thanks for the touching story. I am one of those “Americans in exile”, although to be honest, I know I’m happier here than I was before I left. I wish you the best of successes in rejoining your husband, and I’ll give mine an extra hug tonight. :)

    May 25, 2013
  • TM

    Good luck boys. The rest of the world is waiting to see what the outcome is, and we look forward to good news for the two of you and many others in your situation in America.

    June 11, 2013
  • Dears Jason and David. I saw your video, and let me tell you it’s been 10 minutes ago, and I am still crying… You know, I felt so happy that you two found each other’s love for life, but in the end of the video, I saw the pain, the agony, the saddnes you’ve been living, and I just hope that you can really get together. I’m from Brazil, and I am feeling so lucky to know that I found the love of my life as well. But at the same time, I can’t see all the things you guys and other couples are passing through and not be sad or even ashamed of the representatives that are responsible for this kind of things! Anyway, just letting you know that you’re not alone! There’s someone down here that thinks of you and prays that this whole thing is over! Count on me, stay strong and keep loving and caring for each other! Love you guys!

    June 12, 2013
  • Chantal

    Oh god I am crying…as someone who has had to deal with immigration, and 7 years of loving a man in another country, 7 years of only seeing him for 90 days or less each year…this hits me so hard.

    At least after all the hardship, my husband and I can be together eventually because we happen to be heterosexual. But just because these two legally married men happen to have flesh that resembles a specific shape, they cannot go through American immigration. Immigration only recognizes marriages between straight people. They are in so much limbo…so much heart break…

    You watch them cry and hold each other at the air port and how could you not cry with them? I could never deal with the fact that I love this man so much, but am unable to live with him.

    Imagine if you couldn’t be with the person you love for years…without much hope to make it permanant…I know how they feel….immigration is so hard…and if you’re gay…you can’t even bring your spouse to the states…Time to strike down DOMA for good

    June 13, 2013
  • Virginia

    What kind of sick, f**ked up world do we live in where we vehemently DENY our fellow man their basic human rights? In Maslow’s heiarchy of needs, love is as essential as water and air. Let’s pray the government doesn’t start taxing air!! This story makes me ill just thinking of the pain these poor boys have had to endure. I just want to cry. You two are heroes, Jason and David….. A movie that moved me very deeply comes to mind, and it sums up so perfectly what I want to tell you.
    “I hope that, whoever you are, you escape this place. I hope that the world turns, and that things get better. But what I hope most of all is that, even though I do not know you, and even though I may never meet you, laugh with you, cry with you, or kiss you, I love you. With all my heart, I love you.”

    June 13, 2013
  • Rob

    I went through pretty much the same situation and I feel for you guys. It is not easy. In fact, it was so difficult, I gave up everything to move to his country and apply for residency, which was denied. But I stayed anyways, finding out first hand what it was like to be an illegal. You two deserve to be together. I was a little late, since my beloved died from a heart problem within 2 years of my moving here. Now I can not return. I sign petitions and write in favor of the overturning of DOMA for people like you. I will do what I can although I am so very tired of fighting every step of my life. Don’t ever give up. Love to you both.

    June 14, 2013
  • Robert Bryant

    Ive watched this video 7 times tonight and cry every time. Im thinking of you and all gay brothers and sisters this month. I hope to meet you at the rally here in Weho when the Supreme Court rules on DOMA. San Vicente and Santa Monica Blvd. I hope we are celebrating.

    June 14, 2013
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  • Elle

    The first thing I thought of today was HURRAY! The second thing I thought of was y’all two. What joy you must be feeling! I hope for an update soon!

    June 26, 2013
  • TM

    My thoughts were exactly as Elle above. I wish you both the best for the future.

    June 26, 2013
  • bee freitas

    today when i heard about the end of DOMA, all i could think was about the story of you two and i had to search it in all of the internet just to read again and be happy because you two will, finally, be able to live together
    i am very happy for you two, guys =)
    be together.

    June 26, 2013
  • Andy

    I just wanted to take the time to say that I cried watching your video, and that I can only imagine the heartache you two feel every time Jason has to go home. I hope that today’s repealing of DOMA means that you and Jason can finally be together! My thoughts will be with you, and I hope to hear news of his visa being approved finally!

    June 26, 2013
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  • Lafe

    Your story made my cold heart crumble! Today with the repeal of DOMA, I must have thought of you guys a hundred times. I hope you update us soon! So happy you guys have the same rights as every other married American couple now. Let us know what happens!!

    June 27, 2013
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  • linda

    Good luck to you both , I hope all goes well for the future, you’ve put up with alot.LF.xxx

    June 30, 2013

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